Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause misery, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, finances, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating wives.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I am sure mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against affairs. For many people the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your family or anybody else? You would need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest cluster, very big actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your money are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a male I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our common interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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